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TRUTH #1: LOVE IS UP TO YOU

Love is messy. It is rarely what we think it should be, and we are rarely what we would like to be when we are in love. On one hand we want love to be enough. Yet, on the other hand, we rarely satisfied with the love we have. So fear and love battle it out.

We become silent when we desperately want to connect. We jump in too afst when we know we must slow down. We act cool when we feel hot. We wake up in the middle of the night to snuggle next to the one we love, yet we barely touch each other during the day. We shout in anger as we pray for patience. We put on an act, then worry we won't be loved for who we really are. We reach out. We shut down. We cry. We run. We doubt. Yet we can't live without it.

Love is messy. it won't be confined 2 our preconceived ideas. we want love 2 just happen but love isn't convenient. its highs are higher and its lows are lower than we are ever prepared for.

Love requires more of us than we think we can give. It pushes us past our breaking point, and yet we don't break. It is unpredictable, then sedate. It tears us up while making us better. It is never what we expect.

Love is messy because our desire for love is driven by our fears...
  • We fear being rejected, so we become people-pleasers and call it love.
  • We fear seeming inadequate, so we look for a partner who is perfect and call it having high standards.
  • We fear looking stupd, so we keep 2 ourselves when our soul yearns to open up.
  • We fear we are unlovable, so we hide our true self from those we love.
  • We are afraid to be w/o love , but how many times we are more afraid to be in love...?

YOU ARE THE COMMON DENOMINATOR IN YOUR LIFE. YOU WERE THERE DURING EACH RELATIONSHIPS. YOU WERE THERE WHEN YOU WERE BEING ROMANTIC, ANGRY, OR UNSURE. YOU ARE THE ONE WHO IS CHOOSING HOW MUCH OR HOW LITTLE LOVE YOU FEEL. ONCE YOU FACE YOUR FEARS AND ACCEPT YOURSELF,YOU WILL BE ABLE TO STEP INTO THE FLOW OF LOVE THAT EXISTS EVERYWHERE...

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