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The Golden Door: Commitment

Feelings are powerful but fickle. They can send us into the stratosphere, or land us on the curb outside the hospital. ;-) They can teach us, but they can't lead us. What can? Commitment. Living fearlessly and with intention puts commitment at the forefront of your life. What are you committed to? Are you committed to a person, or to a job, or to something larger? Are you committed to a way of life? An attitude? A way of being? You must be committed if you want to love fearlessly. Committed to staying true to yourself. Committed to accepting yourself as is. Committed to satnding up for what you believe in. Committed to expressing your essential nature so that all of you comes shining through. And once you have found that person and made the choice to love, you must stay committed to the relationship... Being committed doesn't mean you can't end a relationship if it becomes unsalvageable or abusive. You can and should end any relationship that might harm you. Commitment is n
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TRUTH#3: FEELINGS LIE

LOVE IS MORE THAN A FEELING. Often times we are completely controlled by our feelings. We could not identify them, couldn't process them,couldn't distinguish between drama and passion, desire and loneliness, love and fear. It is all just a throbbing mess, so it must be love... In our culture, love is suppose to make a mess of us. It comes with a built-in excuse for acting out every passing feeling, no matter how far-fetched or fear-based it may be. We can't help it, the theory goes, because when we're in love we " go out of our heads:--and w/o a head, all we've got is feelings. We expect to be swept away and to lose control. In fact, we welcome all the confusion. We interpret being out of control as the litmus test of true love, the sign that we've got the real thing... There's nothing in this world that equals the rush of falling in love, that's for sure. Yet when our desire for love is driven by fear, our feelings of worthlessness or being unlovab
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TRUTH #2: EVERYONE IS INNOCENT

Choosing to treat people as if they are innocent is the very foundation of learning to love fearlessly. It is the greatest gift you can give another human being~~the gift of acceptance. As you approach the world with your eyes and heart open~~listening, paying attention,really seeing other people--You will develop the skill to discern who is in fear and who is using fear against you. When you no longer see darkness and deception where it doesn't exist, the real thing is much easier to spot. The first step in seeing people as innocent is to eliminate EXPECTATIONS. We all have expectations~conscious or unconscious--about life and other people. In relationships, expectations lead us to have rigid, premeditated ideas about how the other person should behave. When we expect, we are setting up our loved ones to fail and ourselves to get hurt. DISAPPOINTMENT IS ALWAYS THE RESULT. Expectation filter the info we receive with one sole purpose: to validate our feelings. Expectations have trem
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TRUTH #1: LOVE IS UP TO YOU

Love is messy. It is rarely what we think it should be, and we are rarely what we would like to be when we are in love. On one hand we want love to be enough. Yet, on the other hand, we rarely satisfied with the love we have. So fear and love battle it out. We become silent when we desperately want to connect. We jump in too afst when we know we must slow down. We act cool when we feel hot. We wake up in the middle of the night to snuggle next to the one we love, yet we barely touch each other during the day. We shout in anger as we pray for patience. We put on an act, then worry we won't be loved for who we really are. We reach out. We shut down. We cry. We run. We doubt. Yet we can't live without it. Love is messy. it won't be confined 2 our preconceived ideas. we want love 2 just happen but love isn't convenient. its highs are higher and its lows are lower than we are ever prepared for. Love requires more of us than we think we can give. It pushes us past our breakin
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FEARLESS LOVING

I'm reading a book entitled: " Fearless loving" it's basically about EIGHT SIMPLE TRUTHS in loving fearlessly and getting beyond that fear and actively using that new-found freedom to find the love we all long for... TRUTH# 1: LOVE IS UP TO YOU TRUTH# 2: EVERYONE IS INNOCENT TRUTH# 3: FEELINGS LIE TRUTH #4: CHEMISTRY IS BETWEEN YOUR EARS TRUTH #5: DATING IS WHERE YOU PRACTICE BEING YOURSELF TRUTH #6: "YES" MEANS NOTHING IF YOU CAN'T SAY "NO" TRUTH # 7: LOSS IS A FACT OF LOVE TRUTH #8: LOVE IS A RISK YOU MUST TAKE I would like to share to all the bits and pieces of each chapter...
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