Choosing to treat people as if they are innocent is the very foundation of learning to love fearlessly. It is the greatest gift you can give another human being~~the gift of acceptance.
As you approach the world with your eyes and heart open~~listening, paying attention,really seeing other people--You will develop the skill to discern who is in fear and who is using fear against you. When you no longer see darkness and deception where it doesn't exist, the real thing is much easier to spot.
The first step in seeing people as innocent is to eliminate EXPECTATIONS.
We all have expectations~conscious or unconscious--about life and other people.
In relationships, expectations lead us to have rigid, premeditated ideas about how the other person should behave. When we expect, we are setting up our loved ones to fail and ourselves to get hurt. DISAPPOINTMENT IS ALWAYS THE RESULT.
Expectation filter the info we receive with one sole purpose: to validate our feelings.
Expectations have tremendous power over our livesbecause they program us to repeat the past, to see only what we have seen before and to block out new information taht doesn't fit what we already believe.
Expectations can choke the love out of a relationship, but what's worse is that most of the time we neglect to tell the other person what we expect. you do all the thinking and deciding by yourself. There is no connection. Instead, guilt and insecurities lead the way and no one wins...
As you approach the world with your eyes and heart open~~listening, paying attention,really seeing other people--You will develop the skill to discern who is in fear and who is using fear against you. When you no longer see darkness and deception where it doesn't exist, the real thing is much easier to spot.
The first step in seeing people as innocent is to eliminate EXPECTATIONS.
We all have expectations~conscious or unconscious--about life and other people.
In relationships, expectations lead us to have rigid, premeditated ideas about how the other person should behave. When we expect, we are setting up our loved ones to fail and ourselves to get hurt. DISAPPOINTMENT IS ALWAYS THE RESULT.
Expectation filter the info we receive with one sole purpose: to validate our feelings.
Expectations have tremendous power over our livesbecause they program us to repeat the past, to see only what we have seen before and to block out new information taht doesn't fit what we already believe.
Expectations can choke the love out of a relationship, but what's worse is that most of the time we neglect to tell the other person what we expect. you do all the thinking and deciding by yourself. There is no connection. Instead, guilt and insecurities lead the way and no one wins...
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